Monday, 3 April 2017

Forgiving You

A married man was having an affair with his secretary. One day they went to her place and made love all afternoon. Later that evening the man hurriedly dressed and told his lover to take his shoes outside and rub them in the grass and dirt.

He put on his shoes and drove home.

"Where have you been?" his wife demanded.

"I can't lie to you," he replied, "I'm having an affair with my secretary."

She looked down at his shoes and said: "You're lying to me! You've been playing golf!"

Adultery is no laughing matter, of course, although these days it is so common that it has become the subject of jokes. Many years ago adultery was a very serious matter indeed.

We all know the story when the Pharisees brought to Jesus a woman caught committing adultery.

According to Jewish law she had to be stoned to death for that sin. We’re told in the Gospel of John that Jesus wrote in the sand with His finger. We’re not told what He wrote. I guess He wrote ‘Dear God … will they never learn?’

But that’s not important; what is important is that after He said let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone, and when they all left one by one, Jesus turned to the woman and asked ‘Is there no one left to condemn you?’

She said ‘No one …’

And Jesus replied ‘I do not condemn you either. Go, but do not sin again.’

Now Jesus did not mean do not sin any sin whatsoever ever again for the rest of your life!

He knew that that is impossible. The woman was human, and it is natural that she would sin again. Jesus knows our human nature and He knows that we are liable to sin again and again …

What Jesus said to the woman is, do not commit that particular sin again … it is serious enough to get you into a lot of trouble with the Pharisees as well as with God Himself.

And that’s what Jesus is saying to us today.

He knows we are weak … He knows that we will sin … By saying ‘do not sin again’ Jesus is warning us to beware of those particular sins which are serious enough to lead us into damnation, and into an eternity of exclusion from our Father in Heaven.

In our propensity to sin, God is loving and caring enough to forgive us again and again.

When we confess our sins to God there should also be remorse and guilt for what we have done. Confession should not be just a laborious recitation of the same old sins; and a futile exercise which serves no one and certainly does not fool God Himself.

Without true remorse, and a genuine resolve not to repeat our sins; then confession means nothing. And it would be better not to confess or repent at all. At least that is honest in the eyes of God.

Now when God has forgiven us that should be the end of the matter. He does not keep a little black book in which He writes what we have done and reminds us again and again when we sin again. He knows that our weakness will overcome us; and what He asks is that we at least try not to repeat our sins again. Certainly so for the more serious ones; like adultery for instance.

However, often, our human nature is less forgiving than God's nature. With an honest repentance we are certainly forgiven by God but not by us. We feel we are not forgiven. We feel so ashamed of our sin that we do not forgive ourselves and we torture ourselves by re-calling our sins in our mind and feel unforgiven.

Our inner voice tells us we are unforgiven and reproaches us for what we have done. In some cases this is to such an extent that it stops us moving forward with our lives and hinders our progress towards a loving God waiting to hug us with open arms.

Such a reaction to sin may indeed be a natural human emotion, but it is wrong. It is like slapping God's face and saying that we do not accept His forgiveness or that His forgiveness was wrong. And that itself is another sin on our conscience.

We must learn, and indeed accept, that once God has forgiven us that should be the end of it. And not carry the sense of guilt with us for ever more. Let us move on freely and with a resolve not to sin that particular sin again.


  1. Another great lesson, Victor!

    1. Thank you Lulu. May God bless you always.

  2. Without true remorse, and a genuine resolve not to repeat our sins; then confession means nothing. I teach this often because we have seen it first hand, in our own lives and the life of our son. My husband had an affair early in our marriage that resulted in a son which he kept secret for years. But what is done in secret always comes to light and years later Godly sorrow over it came into his heart. Thankful for God grace that helped us get through that trial and come out wiser and with more compassion toward those who fall. Great post.

    1. Thank you so much Betty for sharing your story with us. As you rightly say, forgiveness comes with true remorse and genuine resolve not to repeat the sin.

      God bless you and your family, Betty.

  3. Very good joke Victor#1

    The interest analysis on your part of how forgiving you believe that God really is was truly interesting.

    How can anyone, well at least Christians, argue with your version of how forgiving The Father truly is.

    If your version directs even one more soul to Jesus Christ, I believe that you're on the right track.

    How can you mis-lead anyone when you even closed by saying... "Let us move on freely and with a resolve not to sin that particular sin again" which emphasized what Jesus said... ‘I do not condemn you either. Go, but do not sin again. Well said.


    By the way, did you hear about the man that was always drinking, well it wasn't always funny the way he carried on because of it.

    Long story short, a preacher felt sorry for this drunk and on Sunday his new parish would go to a certain river to baptize some of their new commers who had not yet received "Baptism".

    This preacher was so well known that people came from all around just to see him do his job so he really had no problem convincing some of his parishioners to bring this guy to the river next Sunday.

    When they got this guy to the river, the preacher was already waste deep and doing his job so the parishioners politely smiled and asked this man, who was still feeling no pain, if he would like to take a little dip in the river and talk to their preacher.

    When the man got into the river with a little help, there was really nothing much said to this man as the preacher gently grabbed this drinking man by the neck and completely submerged him under water.

    When this man came up completely drenched, the preacher quickly asked him if he saw the light and his reply was simply, "NO".

    The preacher dipped him in for a second time and when he came up, he was asked again if he now saw the light to which again he replied, "NO".

    The preacher decided to dunk him for a third time and this time he kept the man under for a few extra seconds and when this man came up, he was shaking his head.

    The Preacher asked with a little stronger voice, Did you see "Jesus"?... and the same answer was given to the preacher... "NO".

    The preacher quickly grasp him for the fourth time by the neck and down into the water the man went, and he was kept there a little longer.

    When the man was finally pulled up, he now did not only seem drunk but also a little dizzy.

    After giving the drunk a few seconds to get his breath, while people were watching from shore, the preacher yelled, "HAVE YOU FINALLY FOUND JESUS?"

    After the alcoholic finally was able to catch his breath... This time, he yelled out... GEE! I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW THAT THIS JESUS WAS LOST! LOL.


    Hey Victor #1... Maybe you might someday start off with this joke if you are ever moved to talk about The First Luminous Mystery.

    Keep UP the good words and works in this troubled world.

    God Bless you and please keep praying for sinner vic.

    1. Thank you again for your visit here. I am praying for you and your family.

      God bless.



God bless you.

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