What is important at one point in time may not be that important at another point in time further down the line.
But at the time, it was very important to you. That is why you argued your case, you took entrenched positions, and you had a strong point of view.
The point was that you were right, and therefore it follows that if you were right then the other person was wrong. And it was your duty to stand up for your rights. It was right that you do so and not walk away and let wrong get away with it.
It was a matter of principle. And where principles are involved it was important that you fight for them.
Eventually, the matter may or may not have been resolved. Both parties may or may not have reconciled or compromised.
It is possible that you both went your separate ways. Perhaps you never spoke to each other ever since. Maybe you have not even met ever since. You both walked away and the issue was left unresolved.
But now, years later, looking back, was it that important after all?
Was it too difficult to resolve? Are you certain you were totally in the right and the other person totally in the wrong? Was it a matter of such importance and a principle worth fighting over to the point where you both lost whatever ground there was between you?
Was what was important then still important now?
Had you known then its true lack of importance would you have fought for it just as much, believing it was more important than it really was?
This really makes you think...
ReplyDeleteThank you Sandi.
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Hindsight, as they say, is 20/20. What often seems earth shattering at the time loses its importance as time marches on. Great reflection, Victor!
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Looking back, how many of the things I fought for, or feared, were really that important?
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Definitely food for thought.
ReplyDeleteI wonder if it is easier to agree to disagree.
Not everything is "cut and dry" as they say.
It is hard to admit that one could have been wrong when one is so sure they were right.
Great post Victor!
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Sometimes, Jan, at the time, the issue is so important that we cannot agree to disagree. Looking back, I knew I had to take a stand; if not for me then for others.
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I think, perhaps, that is usually the case. As we get older and gain more experience...
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Our views change with age, it probably was not important and now I wouldn't waste my time arguing about something that is not important.
ReplyDeleteYes, Bill. Circumstances change, and time makes us reconsider our views.
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Very reflective. There are times that those times when, indeed, it was very important and now there is gratitude in the resolution. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteYes Cathy. We sometimes look back in gratitude at what happened then.
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Interesting, indeed! Whether we've lost sight of an issue (or not), I think it's important that we acknowledge our emotions at that time. Honor them, even. Somedays you've given me more to 'chew' on than that from the pulpit.
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Well said, Victor. Everything can be learned from. And for certain some things which were important to me 20-30 years ago, do not seem nearly so important today.
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I wonder Lulu, is it the passage of time, or is our changed perceptions, that make things no longer important? They were important at the time though. Otherwise we would not have stood our ground.
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I think as we get older we realize that a lot of things are just not as important as we thought. In the great scheme of things do those things really matter.
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Yes, God's Word is what really matters.
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