He said to me that young people should not get married unless they have lived with each other for a while first. Rather strange advice you might say. But being a Catholic priest, he added that they should not have sex before marriage. He limited their fun to playing Monopoly, Chess or Scrabble; he said with a smile.
He advised that people should get to know each other better before getting married. There is nothing like seeing a woman in bed with her hair in curlers and cream all over her face to make you decide whether you want to spend the rest of your life with her!
He was joking of course, but he made his point well. Often, people get married without really knowing the other person well. Their beliefs, their values in life, their ambitions, hopes and wishes. Whether they want to have children or not, what are their priorities in life and so on. Too many people, he claimed, get married because they "love" each other without even knowing what love is and the sacrifices and pains you sometimes have to go through to keep that love alive well after the honeymoon.
"Young people these days," he said, "are infatuated with each other seeing their knight in shining armour, or their princess, rather than experiencing the true meaning of love, caring, loyalty and affection which should ideally last them a lifetime together!"
He was a wise priest. And that was a long time ago.
I wonder whether young people today view marriage in the same context as he did.