Tuesday 26 April 2022

Life's Dilemmas


There are times in life when we are all faced with dilemmas and have to make a decision that may affect us or others. But which are the correct decisions? What would you do in these circumstances?

You're in a park and you see the spouse of your best friend in an amorous embrace with a stranger. It is obvious they are cheating on their marriage. What do you do? Do you tell your best friend what you've witnessed and that their spouse is unfaithful? Do you keep what you saw a secret? 

The priest has noticed that one of the church helpers is stealing from the collection plate. He confronts him, and the helper confesses and repents profusely. The priest consequently learns that this helper has applied for a job at Bishop's House working for the Bishop. What should the priest do? Tell his boss of the potential problem, or keep quiet?

What if the Bishop asks the priest for a character reference?

You are on a cruise ship enjoying a holiday. A passenger falls off the ship into the water and shouts for help. Should you video the event with your cell-phone or take photos with a good SLR camera with automatic telephoto lens?


  1. In the first instance..I would walk up to my best friend,
    in his amorous embrace and say.."Hello John..how ya
    do'in, how's the wife and kids"?

    In the 2nd instance...The priest should take the helper
    to one side and talk to him, advise him, and maybe
    help him..to see the error of his ways..!
    Hopefully he will 'genuinely' repent..!

    In the 3rd instance..It's wrong to go round pushing?
    passengers off of ships..And videoing it whilst doing
    it, would put you in serious trouble... HeHe! :).
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    PS..No! Charge for said advice....! :O)

    1. In the second one, the man has genuinely repented. Should the priest warn his boss, the Bishop? What if asked for a reference? Should he tell everything in the reference?

      God bless, Willie.

    2. Goodness! Victor! Your pushing on this one...
      But! Yes! The priest should explain to the Bishop
      how he feels about the situation, and take full
      responsibility on his decision regarding the carer!
      The Bishop will then make his own decision on
      the carer's future!

      Being serious on the last one..I would film the
      whole episode on my mobile...Shouting things
      like.."Back a bit..left a bit..back..back..SMILE".
      HeHe! Are'nt l wicked..! :O).

    3. Thank you, Willie.

      The second one is a real dilemma. The priest has to be loyal to his boss in case the church helper repeats the offence and steals again from the Bishop. It is also a dilemma when writing a reference for someone. Should we tell everything in a reference? By keeping some information unsaid, are we liable should the person re-offend and we knew about it and did not say so?

      As for the first example. You are very brave and most probably right. But ... would you tell your best friend the spouse is cheating?

      God bless.

    4. HeHe! My advice is gonna cost you a fortune
      Victor...! :).
      Yes! The second one is a dilemma..Who is this
      carer, is he a responsible person? married? children?
      how old is he..? Is a first offence?
      I don't think the issue should pushed to much, if the
      circumstances are in the carers favour, then the
      priest, after all, he is a priest, should consider all
      the facts and the carers thieving will remain between
      the priest and the Bishop..hopefully the carer will
      realise this and change his ways..!

      And..If it was the spouse who was cheating, l would
      still go up to her and say the same thing..in reverse
      order of course..!
      You do 'NOT' mess with anyone's wife, husband,
      girlfriend, boyfriend, cat, dog...the punishment for
      so doing is...'Death'..!
      HeHe! Remember..I'm a Sicilian..!

      Oh! I know what l meant to ask...
      What's with the shaved Alpaca up top...? :O).

    5. As Sandi said. It is a llama. Dyed colour white. So it's a dilemma!!!

      God bless, Willie.

    6. Dyed? I don't think so..!

      But! Yes! I'm wrong..It is a Llama..
      I should have known better..A Llama is bigger
      than an Alpaca..Both the same family though..
      AND..They both 'spit'..

  2. ...sometime it can be difficult to know what's the best thing to do.

    1. I would have thought the SLR camera is best.

      God bless, Tom.

  3. A llama! ❤️❤️❤️

    1. Well done, Sandi. You solved my dilemma. Thank you.

      God bless.

  4. Hey Joe! guess who I saw in the park today?
    These are dilemmas for sure. WE all must pray, think and do our best to stay Christian. At times YES we are faced with situations and wonder which action is best silence or fact. If you are a person who MUST say later, I KNEW THAT! Then it is better to say it up front. Other wise I think Silence is best.

    1. This are situations that could well have happened and it is difficult to decide the best action to take.

      God bless, Jack.

  5. You do what you think is right.

    1. Not always easy though. I'm so indecisive; I'm not so sure.

      God bless, Bill.

  6. De-llama! Sad to say but judging from what I'm seeing out on social media, there's more than a few who'd document the passenger's peril v. rushing to save him. To answer your question, I think silence is golden.

    1. A true de-llama indeed. Why can't life be simple, Mevely?

      God bless you.

  7. When faced with situations like this I stop and say a quick prayer to find out what God's will is for me, then follow the answer I receive.

  8. Hard decisions, in a way. But not. Prayer precedes and works through and finds God's will.

  9. If it was a very good friend I would tell. If just someone I knew I wouldn't.

    I don't think I would tell on the church helper if he was really sorry and repented. BUT if asked for a reference I would tell the truth but say he has confessed and repented.

    A good idea would be to first pray about what is the right thing to do.

  10. In the first instance, i'd take a photo then walk up to the couple and let the friend's spouse know i'm there. Then i would say, "you have 3 days to confess your infidelity to your spouse and start trying to put your marriage back together, or i will tell what i've seen." This gives the perpetrator a chance to do the right thing.

    In the second case, my understanding is that a priest must keep confessions a secret no matter what. If the priest confronted the man, and he confessed and asked for absolution and truly repented, and nothing more has disappeared from the collections since, i thought the priest had to keep mum about it.

    In my case, not being a priest, if someone asked me for a recommendation under such circumstances, i'd go have a heart to heart with the person doing the hiring, letting them know i believe this person should be given a chance and watched to see if the behavior has changed.

    If someone falls overboard, i'm not taking pictures, i'm calling for help!

    1. You are right that a priest should not reveal a confession; however, if asked for a reference, should he omit to mention the incident? By doing so, is he sinning against the Bishop by withholding information?

      God bless, Mimi.

  11. Dearest Victor,
    Guess we all will face such dilemmas during our life.
    Those are the times we must follow the head and not the heart or emotions. It could have dire consequences for all involved, later...

  12. If a passenger falls off the ship the FIRST thing to do is get help for him or her, then film the rescue.
    If the Bishop asks for a character reference, then mention the stealing, if he doesn't then just have a word with the thief to be be on his best behaviour.
    I have no idea about the cheating spouse. I'd want to tell, but think it should be up to him or her. I would perhaps wave and say hello so that he or she knows they've been seen.

    1. You make very good points, River; and wise decisions too. Thank you.

      God bless always.



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